How to Know the Difference

Enabling

When I Feel
Responsible For Others

Caring

When I Feel
Responsible To Others

I Fix . . . and

Protect
Rescue
Control
Carry their Feelings
Don’t Listen

I show Empathy . . . and

Encourage
Share
Confront
Level
Am Sensitive
Listen

I feel Tired . . . and

Anxious
Fearful
Liable

I feel Relaxed . . . and

Free
Aware
High self-esteem

I am concerned with:

The Solution
Answers
Circumstances
Being Right
Details
Performance

I am concerned with:

Relating person to person
Feelings
The other person
I believe if I just share myself, the other person has enough to make it.

I am a manipulator. I expect the person to live up to my expectations.

I am a helper-guide. I expect the person to be responsible for himself and his own actions. I can trust and let go.